Many emotions come up for us when we’re in a relationship - whether you’ve been married for 20 years, partnered for 5, are straight or queer - our unresolved childhood wounds tend to bubble to the surface when we’re in any long-lasting relationship. No one knows how to communicate perfectly and most of us didn’t have great communication skills modeled for us. Toss in insecure attachment styles that lead to desperate questions we wonder but don’t want to be too vulnerable to ask: “Am I enough?” “Will you still love me when…?” “If I trust you with my feelings, will you weaponize them against me?” Not all relationships should last but before you reach that decision, maybe try doing something different - learn to have the hard conversations - your problems will be waiting for you in your next relationship if you don’t explore and heal them.

I imagine being here, seeking help through couples therapy, brings up different feelings like fear, frustration or confusion. Maybe you feel defeated and think you shouldn’t need couples therapy to help you navigate your relationship. Maybe you thought you and your partner wouldn’t ever face difficulty or setbacks. Maybe you, like most of us, believed it when “they” lied to us and said when you find the “right person” you won’t have those problems your parents or friends did. Maybe you realized love just isn’t enough, there’s finances to navigate and big feelings to wade through - sometimes us and our partners aren’t in great places and the relationship is neglected. Whatever brings you here, I assure you, you are not alone.

I take an emotionally focused approach to my work with couples, which means I’m sitting with the couple in the middle of their identified issues and working to help both feel heard and understood. I help couples use different tools that help them feel more connected during disagreements. My work is influenced by Imago therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Esther Perel, Dr. Orna and Gottman therapy. Whatever brings you here, I look forward to helping you carry the weight of all the burdens relationships often bring so you feel lighter and more hopeful at the end of each session.

In addition to couples therapy, I can help with premarital counseling, co-parenting and end of relationship processing and am comfortable working with all sexualities and couple stylings such as polyamory and open-relationships.